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Name: IT’S A SECRET
How did you find out about the community? If it's through an LJ user, please tell us who it is (individual user if possible, not just a community name!): I don’t even remember yall
Age: 25
Location: US
Occupation: Student
All About You
1. Describe your ideal house/home. Please go into as much detail as possible, and be sure to include your ideal geographical location in the description!.
A nicely sized house. Old, unique, with secret rooms. A huge library. A big garden. Lots of land. I’ve recently gotten more into decorating and design and I’d love to just go balls to the walls crazy with it. I’m picturing all the rooms are totally different themes and they are wholly committed to that theme. A Swiss modern minimalist office. A kitchy Midwestern bathroom with ceramic roosters and red towels. A Victorian era dressing room. A whimsical bedroom with oranges and pinks and creepy surreal animal paintings. It goes on and on. It would honestly look like a fucking mess and most people would think it was tacky and childish but I would LOVE it. I like to cook and entertain and have guests, so a big kitchen and a big dining room are a must. The kitchen—oh man, I’m really fantasizing now. It’s fully stocked. I have all the latest gadgets and technology but it doesn’t LOOK ultra modern, it looks comfortable and earthy.
Location…I don’t know. Some place terribly romantic. On a cliff by a crashing sea, next to the mountains. Forests to explore, hidden caves,…some place that seems almost mythic. But I live there, so I’m all “Oh yeah, if you go down the hill and across the moat there’s a secret garden that you open with a key. You have to solve like a puzzle to get the key or some shit. It’s pretty cool but mannnn EFFORT let’s just sit on the porch and drink mimosas , yeah?” I also do love urban life, so this house would be reasonably near a big bustling city full of artists and thinkers and hooligans and thrift stores and dollar tacos and public transportation that smells of pee. Uh, I guess out of the realm of the fantastical, the closest I’m thinking is Pacific Northwest. You guys have public transportation that smells like pee, right?
2. Imagine you’re given the classic opportunity: a genie granting you three wishes. What would you wish for? Please be as elaborate as you can. Wishing for more wishes is not permitted!
1. Free education for all! Retroactive abolishment of student loan debt. More experimental education so smart kids like me who have broken brains don’t have horrible experiences and so not-so-booksmart kids like some of my friends can find the areas they are actually good in instead of feeling like they are lesser. But mostly get rid of that student loan debt.
2. Remember at the end of Up in the Air, George Clooney’s character gives his sister like a billion airline miles? Yeah, I want that. Or better yet, fuck airplanes. They are uncomfortable and long plane rides can suck it. I want teleportation. Just for me (and I can take whoever I want anywhere they want) though, otherwise things would get too complicated.
3. I have a friend with a very sick toddler. I wish I could save all the children of the world, but I don’t know if a genie can do something like that that fundamentally alters the human experience. It really sucks that anyone has to die or suffer but I don’t think my one little wish with this one little genie could change that. Maybe he could make my friend’s kid better though.
3. In your life so far, what accomplishment are you the most proud of? Why? You can list more than one if you have trouble deciding. ;)
This is going to sound weird but….stopping being a shitty person. My childhood was rough and unstable and I became very angry, cynical, harsh, and well, just a huge bitch in my teens and early twenties. I was a pathological liar, I didn’t trust anyone, I manipulated people; I was just scared and confused and I lashed out. You know the mean girls in junior high? I was one of them. You know the flaky partying college student who stole ten bucks from your dresser to buy beer? Me again. Sorry dudes. Now, thanks to my awesome husband and kid and friends, I feel stable and secure. That gave me the framework to stop being so reactive and start thinking about who I wanted to be. Now I think I’m a good friend, wife, mother, listener, etc . I mean I’m not perfect but I am at least honest and empathetic. When I look back at the person I used to be I feel really awful for her, but also pretty proud that I was able to escape that. Some people don’t!
4. Which of the following is most important to you: Love, Money, Knowledge, Family, Friendship, Adventure, or Pleasure? Which is the least important to you? Please explain why for each choice.
Love, family, and friends are kind of murkily tied together for me at #1. People say family will always be there for you, and in my experience growing up, that wasn’t true at all. I made my family out of my friends because I didn’t have anyone else. But now I have my own family, and nothing is more important to me than them. The common theme throughout all of that is love—there are other things that may seem more important from time to time, but ultimately it’s our relationships with other people (and our relationship with ourselves!) that gives our life meaning.
I want to be all Noble and shit and say Knowledge, Adventure or Pleasure but…realistically, money. Financial stability is pretty important to me. I guess I see it as a pyramid. On the bottom, you have your foundation. That’s love. Then next, you have money. It’s not that money is MORE important per se than the others, its just that you need money first to do the others. I mean, sure you can have a small amount of money and blow it on pleasurable items but then it’s gone. Idk, maybe I’m trying to make this seem more reasonable and less selfish than it is. Basically I want to have a decent amount of money so I can do the things I want to do, which all involve the last three concepts.
Of the last three, I’d say Adventure, Pleasure, and Knowledge. Again I feel like these are so tied it’s hard to separate. Adventure comes first because although I do consider myself intellectual I don’t consider myself an academic. I love knowledge because its EXCITING and WOO KNOWING THINGS! It’s…an adventure. I definitely could not sort through lists of data or spend years studying a single subject. Props to you guys who are graduate students but I just don’t have the focus. I kind of jump around to whatever seems pleasing to me at the time.
5. What's one quote (or passage, song lyric, etc.) that effectively describes you and your values? Explain.
To be a good human being is to have a kind of openness to the world, an ability to trust uncertain things beyond your own control, that can lead you to be shattered in very extreme circumstances for which you were not to blame. That says something very important about the condition of the ethical life: that it is based on a trust in the uncertain and on a willingness to be exposed; it's based on being more like a plant than like a jewel, something rather fragile, but whose very particular beauty is inseparable from that fragility.
- Martha Nussbaum
My two big things are being comfortable with uncertainty and being open to vulnerability, so this quote really resonates with me.
6. How do you manage your money? On that note, how important is money/financial security to you? Go into as much detail as you can.
Well, I kind of went into this before, but financial stability is pretty important to me. But even beyond that,I really like having money and buying things. Sometimes I sit around and daydream about all the things I would buy if I was rich, which is kind of sad. I honestly hate this trait of mine and I’m really embarrassed by it. Really rich people and extravagance gross me out. When I was really depressed I developed a bad habit of buying things to get a momentary rush. I would do this when I had barely any money even if it would jeopardize my ability to pay bills. None of this has been a big problem lately because my husband has a fairly decent job and my mental health is pretty stable. I still let him handle most of the day to day finances. I’m good with budgeting and planning so I do the overarching stuff and then he makes sure we don’t mess up. So er yeah, I do have Issues with money. Some stemming from my depression, some from my impulsivity, and some from living with a mom with serious anxiety issues about money.
7. Name (and elaborate on) some of your hobbies. What are your favorite things to do outside of school/the office?
My lifelong love has been stories. I write, I read. I love to meet interesting new people and listen to them and try to figure out why they are the way they are. I love chatting with an old friend and suddenly getting a flash of insight into their thought process that I never realized before. I love sitting around my husband and son and making up silly tales about animals and giggling over how absurd they are. I just love the power that storytelling has.
I cook. The goal is to make healthy, cheap meals three times a day seven days a week. Most weeks I get about halfway there. I know a lot of other people don’t enjoy this process, but I really do. Meal planning is one of my favorite times of the week. I always try to do two new recipes and incorporate new and different ingredients and flavors. And I always make at least one family favorite, something comforting and delicious that I know we’ll love. And some days I just say “fuck it” and we order.
In recent years, I’ve been embracing my “girly” side. I like clothes a lot. When I actually put together an outfit, I look mostly like an art school hipster lite because I’m still learning and I’m not confident enough to go all out. Although yesterday I did wear purple tights with black shorts and a bright pink top and Toms so I pushed it a bit further. ;) I like to sew, although I don’t really have the patience for it, I try. Everything I make ends up kind of crappy but I love them anyway.
I collect Tarot decks and I enjoy reading them. I like to play with kitties and doggies and would very much one day like to play with ponies again.
I like making fun of stupid people on the internet and being a trolly asshole. Old habits die hard, I guess.
8. Name three things you are afraid of. Explain.
1. That I’ll never feel truly grounded. I am so much more stable that I have ever been, but inside my head I still feel like the balls are flying around and crashing into each other. What if I never stay interested in anything long enough to be REALLY good at anything? What if I just wander through life, never really feeling like I have direction and meaning? (Besides the meaning I give to my loved ones, of course, but lately I’ve been focusing on myself as an individual)
2. Related, but I have a lot of issues with identity. I spent the majority of my life being whoever the people in my life wanted me to be, so now my struggle is to figure out who I want to be, and that’s freaking scary.
3. Death. This one is pretty obvious to most people, but it’s new for me actually. I’ve always been like *hand wave* “Oh Death, I’ll get around to it eventually, whatever.” And in some ways, I still am there. Besides the possible pain, I’m not afraid of dying. I’m WAY more afraid of my loved ones dying. I’ve had a new fear related to death recently. I was sitting and thinking about consciousness and how strange it is to have this whole world in your head and how it’s just a product of electrical impulses in your brain (or something, whatever, I haven’t taken Biology since 7th grade and I failed it) and how when you die that world just disappears and I was like…woa. I know I sound like a stoner, but I was totally sober. Well, maybe I’d had a beer or two but THE POINT IS, what freaks me out is not the physical idea of death but the fact that death means our consciousness is finite and ends and I can’t possibly imagine what that means.
9. Name (and elaborate on) your top three BEST and top three WORST qualities (personality-related, not physical). Please answer as fully as you can, as this is an important question.
BEST
I’ve got a quick mind. Sometimes this is good, sometimes bad, but here I’ll focus on the good. I learn things quickly. I can be pretty witty at times. I read faster than anyone I know. I am good at making connections between things and identifying solutions. I can be very spontaneous.
I’m empathetic. I really identify with people who are struggling, because hey I’ve been/am there. I don’t expect people to be anything other than themselves and am willing to accept them for who they are. It doesn’t make me uncomfortable or unhappy to hear other people’s pain, I think they need to be listened to and I’m not going to minimize it, unless it’s a really big white whine.
I couldn’t decide on a last one, so I asked my husband and he immediately said “You’ve got the best bullshit detector. You know when people aren’t being honest, even if they don’t know it and you’re not afraid to call people out on it.” While I actually considered a variant of that for my worst qualities, “I am a gigantic asshole who bluntly states her opinion even when she knows it will make people uncomfortable”, I am glad he at least finds it endearing. I guess what it boils down to is I don’t take what people say at face value and I’m not very gullible. People lie and as someone very intimately acquainted with lies, I can spot them fairly well. I don’t like to be tricked into believing something with flashy lights and smooth talking. I just want people to be honest and if they’re not…I’ll usually say something.
WORST
I have a quick mind. I’m impulsive and I do and say a lot of stupid stuff I regret. I have a hot temper and my emotions are always big and fast and then over. UGGGH IM SO ANGRY. Ok I’m fine now. What was I angry about? Whatever. I get bored easily and sometimes I’ll pick fights or be contrary and play devil’s advocate about shit that doesn’t even matter. I ramble. I write long things like this app and honestly, I probably won’t even go back and edit it even though there are loads of typos because by the time I’m done I’ll be like “OVER IT!” I jump from hobby to hobby, leaving unfinished projects in my midst.
I’m insecure. Sometimes I still get stuck in the mindset where I feel like people don’t really want to be around me and I constantly have to try to get them to approve of me. I can get irrationally jealous. Not of my husband around other women, because oddly enough for some reason in relationships I get all cocky and I’m like “yeah this asshole is never cheating on me I’m the bees knees best thing that ever happened to him”, but more on an emotional level. I would never try to stop my husband and friend from making new friends, but when they do I get scared that the new person is going to be so much more awesome and understanding and funny that they’ll be like “wtf why am I confiding in/listening to this person.” I guess it makes me nervous to have intimate relationships because I’m afraid that people I’ve opened myself up to will shut me out.
I’m way too hard on myself. I talk a lot about validating other people’s pain but I have a hard time accepting my own. BUT ITS DIFFERENT WITH ME YOU SEE IM TRULY HORRIBLE I have perfectionist tendencies. I set unrealistic goals and then when I can’t reach them (because they are impossible) I get defeated and am all “waaah I’m a failure why bother trying.” I am afraid to share my writing, plans, hopes etc with other people because I fear they will judge me as harshly as I judge myself.
A Song of Ice and Fire Related
1.Who are your favorite three characters in the series? Why?
I’m picking four. REBEL. My favorites are Catelyn, Cersei, Jaime and Stannis. I like them all for the same reason, really. I’m interested in flawed characters who seem believable and show a different kind of character than is typical for the genre. Catelyn would normally be “the Mother” figure but Martin gave her a full character. She’s a real person with a lot of depth. Cersei is just fabulous. She’s angry and smart and schemey and selfish and I love it. Jaime is great, he’s so dark and yet so accessible. And Stannis is just fascinating. I think because I’m so out of control and emotional I am particularly interested in characters who are repressed and controlled. ~*opposites attract*~
2.Who are your least favorite three characters in the series? Why?
Jon, Arya, Tyrion
LOL ok I just wanted to finally see that on someone’s app in the least favorite section. I actually love Arya and Tyrion. Jon is one of my least favorites though. He doesn’t get interesting to me until like…book 5. I’d say past him my least favorites are Dany, because the story around her is full of flat and boring characters and Victarion Greyjoy because he’s absolutely despicable, boring, and adds nothing to the story. Ugh. I dislike Jon and Dany but I still have affection for them. Victarion can go fuck himself.
3.#1 Favorite moment in all of ASOIAF so far? Why?
I’m still processing book 5 so I’m going to ignore it and just do this pre-adwd. Catelyn and Jaime at Riverrun. Renly’s Peach, and Cersei and Ned in the godswood. I just noticed that all three of these scenes have two strong and very different characters that come together and it’s all conflict, intrigue and snark.
4. In your dream-world, how would you like to see the series end, and why?
No idea. I’m a journey kind of girl, the destination doesn’t matter as much to me. I mean I’ll have all these FEELINGS about the ending but right now I am open to whatever George wants to write.
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Name: IT’S A SECRET
How did you find out about the community? If it's through an LJ user, please tell us who it is (individual user if possible, not just a community name!): I don’t even remember yall
Age: 25
Location: US
Occupation: Student
All About You
1. Describe your ideal house/home. Please go into as much detail as possible, and be sure to include your ideal geographical location in the description!.
A nicely sized house. Old, unique, with secret rooms. A huge library. A big garden. Lots of land. I’ve recently gotten more into decorating and design and I’d love to just go balls to the walls crazy with it. I’m picturing all the rooms are totally different themes and they are wholly committed to that theme. A Swiss modern minimalist office. A kitchy Midwestern bathroom with ceramic roosters and red towels. A Victorian era dressing room. A whimsical bedroom with oranges and pinks and creepy surreal animal paintings. It goes on and on. It would honestly look like a fucking mess and most people would think it was tacky and childish but I would LOVE it. I like to cook and entertain and have guests, so a big kitchen and a big dining room are a must. The kitchen—oh man, I’m really fantasizing now. It’s fully stocked. I have all the latest gadgets and technology but it doesn’t LOOK ultra modern, it looks comfortable and earthy.
Location…I don’t know. Some place terribly romantic. On a cliff by a crashing sea, next to the mountains. Forests to explore, hidden caves,…some place that seems almost mythic. But I live there, so I’m all “Oh yeah, if you go down the hill and across the moat there’s a secret garden that you open with a key. You have to solve like a puzzle to get the key or some shit. It’s pretty cool but mannnn EFFORT let’s just sit on the porch and drink mimosas , yeah?” I also do love urban life, so this house would be reasonably near a big bustling city full of artists and thinkers and hooligans and thrift stores and dollar tacos and public transportation that smells of pee. Uh, I guess out of the realm of the fantastical, the closest I’m thinking is Pacific Northwest. You guys have public transportation that smells like pee, right?
2. Imagine you’re given the classic opportunity: a genie granting you three wishes. What would you wish for? Please be as elaborate as you can. Wishing for more wishes is not permitted!
1. Free education for all! Retroactive abolishment of student loan debt. More experimental education so smart kids like me who have broken brains don’t have horrible experiences and so not-so-booksmart kids like some of my friends can find the areas they are actually good in instead of feeling like they are lesser. But mostly get rid of that student loan debt.
2. Remember at the end of Up in the Air, George Clooney’s character gives his sister like a billion airline miles? Yeah, I want that. Or better yet, fuck airplanes. They are uncomfortable and long plane rides can suck it. I want teleportation. Just for me (and I can take whoever I want anywhere they want) though, otherwise things would get too complicated.
3. I have a friend with a very sick toddler. I wish I could save all the children of the world, but I don’t know if a genie can do something like that that fundamentally alters the human experience. It really sucks that anyone has to die or suffer but I don’t think my one little wish with this one little genie could change that. Maybe he could make my friend’s kid better though.
3. In your life so far, what accomplishment are you the most proud of? Why? You can list more than one if you have trouble deciding. ;)
This is going to sound weird but….stopping being a shitty person. My childhood was rough and unstable and I became very angry, cynical, harsh, and well, just a huge bitch in my teens and early twenties. I was a pathological liar, I didn’t trust anyone, I manipulated people; I was just scared and confused and I lashed out. You know the mean girls in junior high? I was one of them. You know the flaky partying college student who stole ten bucks from your dresser to buy beer? Me again. Sorry dudes. Now, thanks to my awesome husband and kid and friends, I feel stable and secure. That gave me the framework to stop being so reactive and start thinking about who I wanted to be. Now I think I’m a good friend, wife, mother, listener, etc . I mean I’m not perfect but I am at least honest and empathetic. When I look back at the person I used to be I feel really awful for her, but also pretty proud that I was able to escape that. Some people don’t!
4. Which of the following is most important to you: Love, Money, Knowledge, Family, Friendship, Adventure, or Pleasure? Which is the least important to you? Please explain why for each choice.
Love, family, and friends are kind of murkily tied together for me at #1. People say family will always be there for you, and in my experience growing up, that wasn’t true at all. I made my family out of my friends because I didn’t have anyone else. But now I have my own family, and nothing is more important to me than them. The common theme throughout all of that is love—there are other things that may seem more important from time to time, but ultimately it’s our relationships with other people (and our relationship with ourselves!) that gives our life meaning.
I want to be all Noble and shit and say Knowledge, Adventure or Pleasure but…realistically, money. Financial stability is pretty important to me. I guess I see it as a pyramid. On the bottom, you have your foundation. That’s love. Then next, you have money. It’s not that money is MORE important per se than the others, its just that you need money first to do the others. I mean, sure you can have a small amount of money and blow it on pleasurable items but then it’s gone. Idk, maybe I’m trying to make this seem more reasonable and less selfish than it is. Basically I want to have a decent amount of money so I can do the things I want to do, which all involve the last three concepts.
Of the last three, I’d say Adventure, Pleasure, and Knowledge. Again I feel like these are so tied it’s hard to separate. Adventure comes first because although I do consider myself intellectual I don’t consider myself an academic. I love knowledge because its EXCITING and WOO KNOWING THINGS! It’s…an adventure. I definitely could not sort through lists of data or spend years studying a single subject. Props to you guys who are graduate students but I just don’t have the focus. I kind of jump around to whatever seems pleasing to me at the time.
5. What's one quote (or passage, song lyric, etc.) that effectively describes you and your values? Explain.
To be a good human being is to have a kind of openness to the world, an ability to trust uncertain things beyond your own control, that can lead you to be shattered in very extreme circumstances for which you were not to blame. That says something very important about the condition of the ethical life: that it is based on a trust in the uncertain and on a willingness to be exposed; it's based on being more like a plant than like a jewel, something rather fragile, but whose very particular beauty is inseparable from that fragility.
- Martha Nussbaum
My two big things are being comfortable with uncertainty and being open to vulnerability, so this quote really resonates with me.
6. How do you manage your money? On that note, how important is money/financial security to you? Go into as much detail as you can.
Well, I kind of went into this before, but financial stability is pretty important to me. But even beyond that,I really like having money and buying things. Sometimes I sit around and daydream about all the things I would buy if I was rich, which is kind of sad. I honestly hate this trait of mine and I’m really embarrassed by it. Really rich people and extravagance gross me out. When I was really depressed I developed a bad habit of buying things to get a momentary rush. I would do this when I had barely any money even if it would jeopardize my ability to pay bills. None of this has been a big problem lately because my husband has a fairly decent job and my mental health is pretty stable. I still let him handle most of the day to day finances. I’m good with budgeting and planning so I do the overarching stuff and then he makes sure we don’t mess up. So er yeah, I do have Issues with money. Some stemming from my depression, some from my impulsivity, and some from living with a mom with serious anxiety issues about money.
7. Name (and elaborate on) some of your hobbies. What are your favorite things to do outside of school/the office?
My lifelong love has been stories. I write, I read. I love to meet interesting new people and listen to them and try to figure out why they are the way they are. I love chatting with an old friend and suddenly getting a flash of insight into their thought process that I never realized before. I love sitting around my husband and son and making up silly tales about animals and giggling over how absurd they are. I just love the power that storytelling has.
I cook. The goal is to make healthy, cheap meals three times a day seven days a week. Most weeks I get about halfway there. I know a lot of other people don’t enjoy this process, but I really do. Meal planning is one of my favorite times of the week. I always try to do two new recipes and incorporate new and different ingredients and flavors. And I always make at least one family favorite, something comforting and delicious that I know we’ll love. And some days I just say “fuck it” and we order.
In recent years, I’ve been embracing my “girly” side. I like clothes a lot. When I actually put together an outfit, I look mostly like an art school hipster lite because I’m still learning and I’m not confident enough to go all out. Although yesterday I did wear purple tights with black shorts and a bright pink top and Toms so I pushed it a bit further. ;) I like to sew, although I don’t really have the patience for it, I try. Everything I make ends up kind of crappy but I love them anyway.
I collect Tarot decks and I enjoy reading them. I like to play with kitties and doggies and would very much one day like to play with ponies again.
I like making fun of stupid people on the internet and being a trolly asshole. Old habits die hard, I guess.
8. Name three things you are afraid of. Explain.
1. That I’ll never feel truly grounded. I am so much more stable that I have ever been, but inside my head I still feel like the balls are flying around and crashing into each other. What if I never stay interested in anything long enough to be REALLY good at anything? What if I just wander through life, never really feeling like I have direction and meaning? (Besides the meaning I give to my loved ones, of course, but lately I’ve been focusing on myself as an individual)
2. Related, but I have a lot of issues with identity. I spent the majority of my life being whoever the people in my life wanted me to be, so now my struggle is to figure out who I want to be, and that’s freaking scary.
3. Death. This one is pretty obvious to most people, but it’s new for me actually. I’ve always been like *hand wave* “Oh Death, I’ll get around to it eventually, whatever.” And in some ways, I still am there. Besides the possible pain, I’m not afraid of dying. I’m WAY more afraid of my loved ones dying. I’ve had a new fear related to death recently. I was sitting and thinking about consciousness and how strange it is to have this whole world in your head and how it’s just a product of electrical impulses in your brain (or something, whatever, I haven’t taken Biology since 7th grade and I failed it) and how when you die that world just disappears and I was like…woa. I know I sound like a stoner, but I was totally sober. Well, maybe I’d had a beer or two but THE POINT IS, what freaks me out is not the physical idea of death but the fact that death means our consciousness is finite and ends and I can’t possibly imagine what that means.
9. Name (and elaborate on) your top three BEST and top three WORST qualities (personality-related, not physical). Please answer as fully as you can, as this is an important question.
BEST
I’ve got a quick mind. Sometimes this is good, sometimes bad, but here I’ll focus on the good. I learn things quickly. I can be pretty witty at times. I read faster than anyone I know. I am good at making connections between things and identifying solutions. I can be very spontaneous.
I’m empathetic. I really identify with people who are struggling, because hey I’ve been/am there. I don’t expect people to be anything other than themselves and am willing to accept them for who they are. It doesn’t make me uncomfortable or unhappy to hear other people’s pain, I think they need to be listened to and I’m not going to minimize it, unless it’s a really big white whine.
I couldn’t decide on a last one, so I asked my husband and he immediately said “You’ve got the best bullshit detector. You know when people aren’t being honest, even if they don’t know it and you’re not afraid to call people out on it.” While I actually considered a variant of that for my worst qualities, “I am a gigantic asshole who bluntly states her opinion even when she knows it will make people uncomfortable”, I am glad he at least finds it endearing. I guess what it boils down to is I don’t take what people say at face value and I’m not very gullible. People lie and as someone very intimately acquainted with lies, I can spot them fairly well. I don’t like to be tricked into believing something with flashy lights and smooth talking. I just want people to be honest and if they’re not…I’ll usually say something.
WORST
I have a quick mind. I’m impulsive and I do and say a lot of stupid stuff I regret. I have a hot temper and my emotions are always big and fast and then over. UGGGH IM SO ANGRY. Ok I’m fine now. What was I angry about? Whatever. I get bored easily and sometimes I’ll pick fights or be contrary and play devil’s advocate about shit that doesn’t even matter. I ramble. I write long things like this app and honestly, I probably won’t even go back and edit it even though there are loads of typos because by the time I’m done I’ll be like “OVER IT!” I jump from hobby to hobby, leaving unfinished projects in my midst.
I’m insecure. Sometimes I still get stuck in the mindset where I feel like people don’t really want to be around me and I constantly have to try to get them to approve of me. I can get irrationally jealous. Not of my husband around other women, because oddly enough for some reason in relationships I get all cocky and I’m like “yeah this asshole is never cheating on me I’m the bees knees best thing that ever happened to him”, but more on an emotional level. I would never try to stop my husband and friend from making new friends, but when they do I get scared that the new person is going to be so much more awesome and understanding and funny that they’ll be like “wtf why am I confiding in/listening to this
I’m way too hard on myself. I talk a lot about validating other people’s pain but I have a hard time accepting my own. BUT ITS DIFFERENT WITH ME YOU SEE IM TRULY HORRIBLE I have perfectionist tendencies. I set unrealistic goals and then when I can’t reach them (because they are impossible) I get defeated and am all “waaah I’m a failure why bother trying.” I am afraid to share my writing, plans, hopes etc with other people because I fear they will judge me as harshly as I judge myself.
A Song of Ice and Fire Related
1.Who are your favorite three characters in the series? Why?
I’m picking four. REBEL. My favorites are Catelyn, Cersei, Jaime and Stannis. I like them all for the same reason, really. I’m interested in flawed characters who seem believable and show a different kind of character than is typical for the genre. Catelyn would normally be “the Mother” figure but Martin gave her a full character. She’s a real person with a lot of depth. Cersei is just fabulous. She’s angry and smart and schemey and selfish and I love it. Jaime is great, he’s so dark and yet so accessible. And Stannis is just fascinating. I think because I’m so out of control and emotional I am particularly interested in characters who are repressed and controlled. ~*opposites attract*~
2.Who are your least favorite three characters in the series? Why?
Jon, Arya, Tyrion
LOL ok I just wanted to finally see that on someone’s app in the least favorite section. I actually love Arya and Tyrion. Jon is one of my least favorites though. He doesn’t get interesting to me until like…book 5. I’d say past him my least favorites are Dany, because the story around her is full of flat and boring characters and Victarion Greyjoy because he’s absolutely despicable, boring, and adds nothing to the story. Ugh. I dislike Jon and Dany but I still have affection for them. Victarion can go fuck himself.
3.#1 Favorite moment in all of ASOIAF so far? Why?
I’m still processing book 5 so I’m going to ignore it and just do this pre-adwd. Catelyn and Jaime at Riverrun. Renly’s Peach, and Cersei and Ned in the godswood. I just noticed that all three of these scenes have two strong and very different characters that come together and it’s all conflict, intrigue and snark.
4. In your dream-world, how would you like to see the series end, and why?
No idea. I’m a journey kind of girl, the destination doesn’t matter as much to me. I mean I’ll have all these FEELINGS about the ending but right now I am open to whatever George wants to write.
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Date: 2011-09-30 10:40 pm (UTC)