win or die!
Jan. 19th, 2013 09:15 pmName: Cm
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Age: 20
Location: united states
Occupation: student
All About You
1. Describe your ideal house/home. Please go into as much detail as possible, and be sure to include your ideal geographical location in the description!.
I'd like to live someplace sunny and near a river. I've grown up living within walking distance of a river, (and even when I moved away for University, campus is very close to another river, haha) and I can't imagine being without that. I love the water, I love boating and swimming and yeah! Climate-wise, I like experiencing all the seasons, so definitely not way up north where 3/4 of the year is freezing cold, but also not someplace where "cold" is 50 degrees Fahrenheit. Oh, and it's very important that it's not a windy place. At all. Wind and I aren't friends.
As far as houses go, I prefer to have a lot of elbow room, so to speak. A place with a couple big rooms, large windows for sunny days, and a modern atmosphere sounds ideal to me. I'd need a particularly spacious studio room for when I work on art projects, and it would be insanely cool to have one of those alcove bed setups with a big fluffy bed inside a wall. Also, if we're allowed to go into "over-the-top ridiculous" territory, I've always wanted to have a private observatory attached to my home that I could use to stargaze and such. I also like a home full of little nooks and crannies, secret doors and hidden passageways, etc. A home that would fun to explore and get lost in.
I'd want to live on the fringes of a big city, because I like to feel like there's always something interesting and new going on, and small rural towns are just too slow and quiet for me. However, I would specifically want to live away from the center of the action so I could still enjoy a bit of privacy and solitude.
Finally, I'd absolutely need a big oak tree in the front yard with the perfect shape for climbing. I had one in front of my house as a kid, but it got all torn up by a tornado and I just remember having so much fun climbing up as high as I could and spying on people, haha.
2. Imagine you’re given the classic opportunity: a genie granting you three wishes. What would you wish for? Please be as elaborate as you can. Wishing for more wishes is not permitted!
- 1. For my first wish, I'm thinking I'd like multiple "lives" akin to what you'd get in a video game. So that each time I die, I'd "respawn" like nothing had happened. Besides the obvious advantage of having backup lives for those unforeseeable accidents that would otherwise end in tragedy, there are a lot of things I'd like to try that aren't the safest things in the world (motorcycling, skydiving, etc.), but I don't think I'd ever really go for it because I still value my life more.
- 2. Secondly, I'd wish for the ability to fly, because why stop at one ridiculous superpower? I've always, always wanted to experience what it's like to fly. It seems like it'd be so much fun and I would never have to be nervous about heights again! Just, I've dreamed of what it would feel like to float up high, feel the wind below my feet, get a bird's eye view of the world. It would be so insanely surreal.
- 3. And finally, I'd wish that the first two wouldn't backfire/ have negative consequences for me or those close to me in any way. Genies and magic wishes always have a habit of going awry very easily, and I can see these things blowing up in my face. So nope, none of that. I'd like my wishes without any of that ironic consequences bullshit, thank you very much.
3. In your life so far, what accomplishment are you the most proud of? Why? You can list more than one if you have trouble deciding. ;)
Hmmm… I've got a lot to be proud of re: academics, like maintaining a high gpa at a relatively competitive university, earning merit scholarships, etc. but I think, in all honesty, my proudest personal achievement is when I finally directly went against the wishes of my family and friends and got all of my hair chopped off. I'd been wanting short hair for a long time, but my mom especially kept trying to coax me out of the idea. (She loved my hair more than I ever did, ahaha.) I'm pretty close with my family/friends and usually I value their opinions, but this was a case where I put my foot down and trusted my own judgment in the matter. It was kind of the start of me finally pursuing the real me and being proud of my own tastes and interests, regardless of what the people around me may think. And since then, I've been steadily growing more confident in myself. (plus my hair looks fucking great.)
4. Which of the following is most important to you: Love, Money, Knowledge, Family, Friendship, Adventure, or Pleasure? Which is the least important to you? Please explain why for each choice.
I'd have to say Friendship and Family win out here. I don't have many friends, but the ones I do have, have been such a great support, and they're always the ones to pick me up when I'm feeling down. Not to mention how they always push me in the right direction when I feel lost. With family, it's not so much the concept of family that's important, since I have no real intention of starting my own, but I'm quite attached to my parents and sister (much as they drive me crazy).
For least important, I'd have to tentatively say Money? Even though it's still important, it's probably the least important to me out of the list. I would never give up friends or family, knowledge is certainly something worth valuing, and I can't imagine a life without pleasure or adventure. On the other hand, I'm pursuing a career that doesn't promise much in the way of money, and though it's always good to have money to make life easier, I wouldn't value it above any of the other things listed.
5. What's one quote (or passage, song lyric, etc.) that effectively describes you and your values? Explain.
"Nothing here is set in stone
Nothing's ever set stone,
Everything I have some day will fall apart and fade away."
- Angelina (the Bravery)
I'm not really good with quotes, but these are lyrics that I tend to come back to a lot? I think if I had to choose the most major thing I've come to learn over my short time here so far, it would be that everything changes. Nothing can last forever. It's inevitable. And I think it's important not to cling too tightly to how things are presently or to look back too much wishing things were like they were in the past. Life is dynamic, and it just seems pointless to mourn something ending. Let things run their natural course, enjoy them while they last, and welcome the future as it comes.
6. How do you manage your money? On that note, how important is money/financial security to you? Go into as much detail as you can.
Financial security is, of course, incredibly important when it comes to having personal freedom (not being tied down by debt, etc.) and helps a lot with pursuing goals and stuff, so in a sense it is important to me? And as a college student, I know what it's like to not have enough of the stuff. But, I'm also not planning my entire life around achieving financial security or making a lot of money. In fact, I'm very aware that the path I'm on is typically not very good for filling your bank account. I'm okay with that. Money is nice to have, but it's not the most important thing in the world.
That being said, the way I manage my finances is usually: spend very little on things outside of absolute necessities -> save, save, save! -> make a huge purchase -> feel crippling guilt -> rinse and repeat.
7. Name (and elaborate on) some of your hobbies. What are your favorite things to do outside of school/the office?
Well, as you might have guessed, I do fancy a good book or two, though I don't read as much as I used to. I like kind of living vicariously through the stories and letting the real world fade away for a while. I play videogames to wind down from a hard day, but I mostly just like things like Pokemon and Zelda that aren't too serious or difficult.
I draw/paint! Like... that takes up at least 70% of my free time (and some of my not-actually-free-time). I like having a skill that I'm constantly working to improve, and creating has always been an overwhelming passion for me.
Overall, though, I usually have my hand in a number of different things at a time. For example, I on-and-off work with a group of friends to make little adventure games that you can play online, and I like compiling fanmixes, messing around with AU ideas, talking about fiction, writing things occsionally (even if I'm no good, haha), etc. etc.
8. Name three things you are afraid of. Explain.
- Being trapped. Literally and metaphorically. I like my freedom, and the thought of being stuck either in a physical place or in a situation with no way of getting out is incredibly distressing. I can't stand being told what to do, so being trapped under somebody's thumb would be horrible, and I get restless when I don't have full control over myself. And, obviously, I wouldn't be able to stand being caged or locked up somewhere. It would sap the life out of me.
- Losing use of my hands. Because I strongly define myself by my ability to create art, so I'm always worrying about severely injuring my hands or not being able to use them effectively when I'm older because my family has a history of bad arthritis (My mother can't even bend one of her fingers at all anymore because hers got so bad). I literally would not know what to do with myself if I lost them.
- Being completely alone. I'm pretty solitary by nature, and I have no interest in, for example, starting a family or being a social butterfly, but the thought of becoming completely and totally isolated terrifies me. I'm worried that my family and friends will run out of patience with me and I'll end up all alone. I also get really uncomfortable when I travel out into the countryside. I love nature as much as the next person, but being so physically isolated from the world makes me nervous.
9. Name (and elaborate on) your top three BEST and top three WORST qualities (personality-related, not physical). Please answer as fully as you can, as this is an important question.
THE BAD
- I'm avoidant. At least, in the sense that I'd sooner ignore something that makes me uncomfortable rather than face it head on. Sure, I can force myself to swallow my fear if I have to or if other people are seriously counting on me, but in most cases I flee before I fight. I'm totally pathetic when it comes to standing my ground or standing up to people, either. I also tend to procrastinate horribly because I'm anxious about doing my work, which never ends well. I think the worst thing about this is that I'm fearful of strangers, so, for example, if someone is, say, blocking a hallway, instead of asking them to move, I take a detour that takes twice the time it would've taken me if I'd just confronted the obstacle right away. (Basically, I'm kind of a coward.)
- I'm extremely self-critical. I know that everybody makes mistakes and that I shouldn't beat myself up over every dumb little thing I do wrong, but it's hard not to overanalyze my flaws. I have ridiculous standards for myself (including: must never fuck up ever). Most of all, though, I let things get to me, and it's incredibly hard for me to truly forgive myself, let go of negative feelings, and move on.
- I'm stupid. When it comes to academics, I excel, but everyday things? Common sense things? I just fail marvelously. I can be pretty irrational and rush into making decisions without considering all the details, and it usually ends up backfiring on me horribly. I'm very scatterbrained and forget things easily. (I've taken to using sticky notes for everything). I'm not going to lie, I've broken more than a few household appliances because I had a dumb idea and didn't think it all the way through.
THE GOOD
- I'm adaptable. I'm the kind of person who goes with the flow and I'm not so stuck in my ways that I let myself fall behind just because something is new or different. I adapt quickly to new situations. Moreover, I like breaks in the usual routine; it keeps me on my feet and interested. Also, as kind of result, I'm pretty independent because I don't need people to hold my hand when I'm new to something. I can jump right in without help.
- I have a healthy sense of humor. I'm usually hard to offend and quick to joke, I try not to take life too seriously, and my first instinct when something goes wrong is to laugh. Sarcasm is practically my native language (although I'm kind of too good at keeping a straight face, because even my close friends sometimes can't tell if I'm being serious or not). Laughing is really how I get through tough times and it's also pretty much the only thing that pulls me out of emotional slumps. I also take pride in being able to use humor to cheer others up and take their minds off of whatever's bothering them.
- I'm imaginative. A lot of the time I can be stuck in my own world (as I've mentioned before) but that's not all bad! I have a very active imagination and I feel like it makes life a lot more interesting. There's always something going on in my head, some idea that I'm refining or some character that I'm creating, and I've always got to keep my hands busy and my mind active, so more often than not I end up doing quite a lot of work in my free time. While this also means that I usually get my hands into too many projects at once and overload, it also means that I'm never bored or lacking something to do. Plus, I'm pretty good at solving problems in creative ways.
A Song of Ice and Fire Related
1.How many books from the series have you completed?
I've finished all five main books.
2.Who are your favorite three characters in the series? Why?
- Brienne of Tarth: Gosh I want to write so much about Brienne. I love how she isn't just "Honorable and Strong" (although those are great qualities, to be sure). Like, woah, she's really, really relatable? I mean between her insecurities over her looks and her gender and shit and the fact that she's constantly beating herself up over "failing" people like Renly and Cat and her own father, she's a lot more complex than people give her credit for! And I adore that. I like how she's kind of a deconstruction of the typical Lady Knight trope, and that she's not some prestine knight in shining armor. She's skilled in battle and pragmatic, but she's also childishly naive about a lot of things, and she can be really idiotic and too honest to live. She's a great mix of kick ass and totally hopeless. And she's just kind of awesome? I laughed for a thousand years when I read how she challenged her suitor to a duel and broke his collarbone for making a "get back in the kitchen" comment. Good Lord. I can't help but love her. I want all good things for Brienne.
- Cersei Lannister: And then my second favorite character is the complete opposite of the first, haha. I love Cersei! I think she's a brilliant character and I genuinely liked her when I read AGOT, because I liked that she was kind of morally dubious yet strangely sympathetic. From there it went from "Oh, she seems interesting and complex, and I can sort of understand where she's coming from." to "Oh my god how did we get here. How can someone so awful be so wonderful. I'm in too deep. Help." The thing I love about Cersei is that she IS awful a lot of the time, but she never apologizes for it, and she never doubts herself, which is something I can respect, you know? Even in her captivity, she manages to be a snarky little shit to her captors. (God, I spit out my drink when I read "One day I will have your tongue ripped out with hot pincers, and that will be hilarious." Cersei's pov is fantastic.) I love all of her flaws, like how she's so self-sabotaging and she overestimates herself and how she's actually really horrible at ruling and handling power. I just find her incredibly fascinating and entertaining as a character.
- Theon Greyjoy: I like Theon pretty much for the same reason I like Cersei, which is that I think he's a fantastically written character who has been so entertaining and interesting to read about. I eagerly looked forward to his chapters ever since Clash of Kings. He's just so unintentionally hilarious and tragic at the same time? Ugh! I especially like this character because he's one of those who's actually made me feel a wide array of emotions, from frustration (a LOT of frustration because holy shit, Theon, you are the biggest idiot ever and all of your life choices are bad) to schadenfreude, to disgust, to pity, to heartbreak, etc., etc. He's such a dynamic character, and I really like how extreme his journey has been throughout the series.
3.Who are your least favorite three characters in the series? Why?
- Renly Baratheon: Was I the only one who thought Renly was annoying? Yes? Oh, okay then. I mean I certainly don't hate him or anything! I just didn't see the ~amazing perfect king~ that everyone else seemed to see. Just because someone's charming and likeable doesn't mean they should be running the goddamn country, and he seemed more like a spoiled child than anything else.
- Randyll Tarly: He's not "as bad" as some of the major baddies in the series, but he just gets under my skin. The way he treats people is abhorrent and his strict "my way or the highway" personality is really off-putting, but most of all what disgusts me about him is how he treats anyone who's different or doesn't fit into his narrow view of what's "acceptable" like total shit, and then he's held up on a pedestal by his society as a strong, honorable man. Yuck.
- Victarion Greyjoy: Please whine more about how hard your life is. (I'm sure your wife can relate.)
4.#1 Favorite moment in all of ASOIAF so far? Why?
Pretty much every time a character ugly!cries or has some kind of emotional breakdown...
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What? I like seeing the vulnerable side of characters! Especially in a world where vulnerability is so dangerous. It makes the characters more endearing to me.
5. In your dream-world, how would you like to see the series end, and why?
Overall, I just want the series to end on a positive note. I mean, obviously it's not going to be sunshine and rainbows after everything that's happened, but for the characters to go through all of this, only to have it end on another downer seems redundant and boring. It's weird, but the more depressing and hopeless a story gets, the more I'm convinced it will have a happy ending.
But, in all honesty, I don't care who gets the throne or if there even is a throne at the end of all this. (HOWEVER!! If Asha isn't ruling the Iron Islands at the end I will be very upset.) We've seen pretty clearly that Westeros has just had incredibly shitty luck with monarchs. Actually, I quite liked Catelyn's idea of a Great Council made of representatives from each great house, and hey, maybe Dany could oversee that so she could still have some power but not be solely in charge of Westeros (I like Dany, I just think she's better at conquering than she is ruling. 3: ).
Hm, what else... I mean, there are a lot of things I'd like to happen before the story ends (Asha/Alysane friendship, Brienne putting Stoneheart to rest once and for all, everything to do with the Citadel and Sam learning magic, Lannister sibling reunion, Theon not dying horribly, etc.) but I don't have much of an opinion on the specifics of the actual ending.
[TULLY]
Date: 2013-01-21 11:41 am (UTC)There are aspects about you that fit Stark, Tully and even Targaryen, but I'm gonna have to say TULLY because I think it just fits the best (going with the flow, rivers, sense of humor, your quote).
[TULLY]
Date: 2013-01-21 01:46 pm (UTC)[MARTELL]
Date: 2013-01-21 03:37 pm (UTC)[TULLY]
Date: 2013-01-21 05:34 pm (UTC)[STARK]
Date: 2013-01-21 05:57 pm (UTC)Your "bad" qualities sway me towards the Starks, and you do seem more idealistic than pragmatic. Both houses tend to have demonstrated adaptation skills, Tullys perhaps little easier than Starks. Looking your achievements you surely are dutiful, but the thing you feel proud the most is standing your ground. How very Brynden of you! So Tully it is!
[TULLY]
Date: 2013-01-21 06:32 pm (UTC)[TULLY]
Date: 2013-01-21 09:04 pm (UTC)[LANNISTER]
Date: 2013-01-21 10:22 pm (UTC)Also, respawning would be a really interesting life cycle. Gave me something clever to think about. :)
[MARTELL]
Date: 2013-01-22 03:08 am (UTC)[TYRELL]
Date: 2013-01-22 06:34 am (UTC)[TARGARYEN]
Date: 2013-01-22 12:32 pm (UTC)[TARGARYEN]
Date: 2013-01-22 03:10 pm (UTC)[TYRELL]
Date: 2013-01-22 09:43 pm (UTC)[Tyrell]
Date: 2013-01-22 10:42 pm (UTC)Targaryen
You have the creativity, the need for freedom, the duality and the introspection in spades and I think you should at least get one vote showing that.
[Stark]
Date: 2013-01-23 01:38 am (UTC)Have to say too I really liked your thoughts on Cersei why she's such a great villain. It certainly gave me food for thought!
[STARK]
Date: 2013-01-23 04:40 am (UTC)[TARGARYEN]
Date: 2013-01-23 08:22 am (UTC)[MARTELL]
Date: 2013-01-23 11:31 am (UTC)[STARK]
Date: 2013-01-23 11:45 am (UTC)LANNISTER
Date: 2013-01-23 03:05 pm (UTC)[TYRELL]
Date: 2013-01-23 06:57 pm (UTC)[TARGARYEN]
Date: 2013-01-24 12:41 am (UTC)(And prayer circle for Aly/Asha friendship instead of one of them killing the other...)
[MARTELL]
Date: 2013-01-24 03:21 am (UTC)There is something Dragonish in you. You're adaptable and you like your freedom, you're also proud of standing your ground against the opinions of your loved ones and becoming more confident in yourself. I see a Dragon here.
[MARTELL]
Date: 2013-01-24 03:44 am (UTC)[STARK]
Date: 2013-01-24 03:46 am (UTC)[STARK]
Date: 2013-01-24 04:38 am (UTC)[LANNISTER]
Date: 2013-01-24 05:51 am (UTC)[TARGARYEN]
Date: 2013-01-24 10:49 am (UTC)[MARTELL]
Date: 2013-01-24 04:30 pm (UTC)[LANNISTER]
Date: 2013-01-24 04:35 pm (UTC)[TULLY]
Date: 2013-01-24 10:35 pm (UTC)[LANNISTER]
Date: 2013-01-25 02:20 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2013-01-25 10:54 am (UTC)You may join
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